Kissing Tips For Men

From the time that a girl is young she’s used to kissing as her only means of showing affection. So from an early age they put a lot of weight into kissing. A lot of men no matter how old or young are ready to just get down to business and do the nasty deed. They don’t understand that some women, if not most women judge men more based on how well of a kisser they are before thinking of what could happen down the line.

It’s not that men don’t like kissing, they’re often just too eager for their own good. And a lot of women are turned off by this, kissing is something that women take very seriously and men need to learn how to appreciate it more, but how do men learn how to appreciate kissing more then the anticipation of sex?

Well first they need to remember what makes kissing so special in the first place. They need to remember how excited they were when they were young at the thought of kissing a girl for the first time. If they can remember this then maybe they can learn how to appreciate it more as adult men. So what can you do to remember the joy of kissing? Here are a few things that you can begin to do today to experience that electricity that went down your spine the first time you would kiss a girl.

Remember the anticipation:

First you need to remember the anticipation that you felt when you were first dating a girl. You weren’t thinking of sex or any kind of sexual contact at that point, you were just thinking about how awkward it would be that first-time kissing her and how much you were going to enjoy it. It was the anticipation that made it exciting, even if it was just a peck on the lips you still felt that jolt shoot down your spine. Close your eyes and try to remember that, it will help you to understand more of where a woman is coming from and why she enjoys kissing so much.

See it as a strong display of affection:

As I mentioned earlier, some women if not a lot of women see kissing as more of a display of affection than sex itself. This is why you need to make sure that you are good at it. Women judge a man based on how well of a kisser he is. They feel that if a man is not a good kisser then you will probably not be too good in bed either. If this is the case then you will not even get to the bed if you can’t master the kissing part first. So make sure, especially when you are kissing a woman for the first time, that you relax and let things flow naturally, just enjoy it and think of nothing else.

See it as a sign of things to come:

You have to learn to see kissing as a sign of things to come. That way you will go the extra mile to make sure that you do it right. You’ll make sure that you don’t rush things and she will see you as a patient guy. She will go to sleep at night filled with anticipation of what it will be like to be with you down the line. The rare exception to the rule is the girl that doesn’t like to kiss, but this extremely rare as most women like to kiss so it is a good idea to learn how to appreciate the art. Remember kissing is a display of affection and the more affectionate you are seen as the more appreciated you’ll be.

Guys can learn to love kissing just like women love kissing. They just have to learn that kissing is not just something that you do before sex. They need to learn how to appreciate it for the loving act that it is. Not to sound corny or anything, but once you learn how to appreciate kissing, believe it or not, women will appreciate you much more. So remember that the next time you decide you don’t want to kiss a woman.

You Must Remember This – It Matters Why and When You Kiss

It was a lovely, and pretty typical, Friday evening. The kids were out with friends and the house was all theirs. They were snuggled together on the couch watching this week’s movie choice. They took turns choosing the movie of the week.

Tonight’s movie was a classic, Casablanca. They both knew it well and enjoyed it every time. They hadn’t watched it in awhile, but when the song came on, “As time goes by”, they both sang along. At the end, they sighed, smiled at each other, and, naturally, kissed to mark the line, “A kiss is just a kiss.”

When the movie ended, Tia turned to Tucker and said, “I liked that kiss. We should do more of that.”

Tucker, recognizing his cue, immediately kissed her gently on the lips. Tia smiled and said, “I like that.” After a couple of moments, Tia said, “Tucker, why don’t we kiss more often? We used to kiss all the time. People used to tease us about the dangers of chapped lips. When did we stop kissing so much?”

Tucker wrinkled his forehead as he considered the question. “Hmm. I don’t know the answer, but I think I know the solution.” And he pulled her closer and locked lips with her. This time it wasn’t so much a gentle kiss as a suggestive one. The suggestion was made all the more obvious by the way he was pulling against her.

To his confusion, Tia pulled away and started talking again.

“Whoa, Tucker. That is not where I was going with the conversation.”

“Tia, we just watched one of the most romantic movies ever made. Then you made a point about us kissing more. I thought our direction was pretty obvious.” Tucker wasn’t so much angry as he was just completely confused. But he was not a novice at this marriage communication thing; he had skills! He reoriented and sat back a bit. He made eye contact and made an inquiry, smiling so that Tia felt that he was on her side.

“Okay, Tia, help me understand what you were thinking.”

Tia had learned to trust that Tucker really wanted to know, so she explained.

“I think we’ve gotten so familiar and casual with each other and so busy that we don’t often stop and just connect through kissing. Kissing means we have to stop doing everything else and just for those few moments be totally with each other. It’s a lovely thing, but I think it’s an interruption of a sort that we don’t often make time or thought for.”

Tucker nodded. This made sense to him. They’d even made do too often with just making a kissing gesture across the room when one or the other of them left the house.

But, looking at Tia, Tucker had a suspicion that there was another thought there that she needed to share.

“Tia, there’s something else on your mind. Spill it.” He smiled at her to encourage her to speak freely.

“Well, I think it was more than just time going by. I may have to take some responsibility for this. I think I started to avoid kissing you because I didn’t want to raise your expectations. A lot of the time when we’d kiss, especially if I initiated the kiss, you took it from gentle affection to something more passionate. And then it would seem that you expected it to evolve into sex. I didn’t want to give you that message all the time. So I think I just stopped kissing. But I really miss the kissing.”

Tia looked sad.

Tucker looked thoughtful. His forehead wrinkled again.

“Well, I guess I have to share that responsibility. It’s pretty much true that I would like most of those kisses to be passionate and to lead to more. You’re always beautiful to me, Tia, and I almost always want to be passionate with you. But you’ve explained to me before that your mindset isn’t always in that place, so I guess I get that the passionate stuff doesn’t always feel welcome or well-timed.”

Tia smiled broadly and lovingly at Tucker when she heard how well he had listened and how well he understood her feelings, even when they were different from his own.

Tucker hit the jackpot when he then said, “So how about I just follow your lead if you take the kiss up a notch?” At which point she most clearly did.

Keep a Kissing Routine

Often in the beginning of a relationship, the kissing is what sets us on fire for each other. We love to kiss each other, and the kissing often leads to other activities as it rightly should. Once the newness of the relationship wears off and sometimes when other issues creep into the relationship, kissing is one of the first things to go. To heat up your relationship on a regular basis, make sure kissing is part of your regular routine.

Studies show that kissing reduces the levels of the stress hormone cortisol in both sexes and raises the levels of oxytoxin, a hormone normally associated with bonding. Kissing also facilitates the exchange of pheromones between a couple, helping to incite the attraction which first drew them together. Kissing is also attributed to an exchange of testosterone from the male to the female. This slight hormonal surge might be enough to help fuel a woman’s sexual desire. Kissing also has a biologic component. Sharing natural germs with someone you are close to boosts your overall internal defense system.

Deep, passionate kissing mimics the conditions of the genitalia during sex, which is why the act of kissing immediately gets our minds wandering to other things. The lips are highly sensitive in most people as is the tongue. The slow, sensual kiss that gradually builds into a more heated exploration triggers a flood or hormones throughout the body and leaves us wanting more.

If your love life is a little on the slow side and you’ve noted a lack of kissing might be to blame, make it a habit to kiss each other every day. Don’t just peck each other on the lips and then run. Hold each other, touch each other and make sure those kissing last for at least 30 seconds. For best results, make sure you always have great kissing breath, and then get busy kissing!