You Must Remember This – It Matters Why and When You Kiss

It was a lovely, and pretty typical, Friday evening. The kids were out with friends and the house was all theirs. They were snuggled together on the couch watching this week’s movie choice. They took turns choosing the movie of the week.

Tonight’s movie was a classic, Casablanca. They both knew it well and enjoyed it every time. They hadn’t watched it in awhile, but when the song came on, “As time goes by”, they both sang along. At the end, they sighed, smiled at each other, and, naturally, kissed to mark the line, “A kiss is just a kiss.”

When the movie ended, Tia turned to Tucker and said, “I liked that kiss. We should do more of that.”

Tucker, recognizing his cue, immediately kissed her gently on the lips. Tia smiled and said, “I like that.” After a couple of moments, Tia said, “Tucker, why don’t we kiss more often? We used to kiss all the time. People used to tease us about the dangers of chapped lips. When did we stop kissing so much?”

Tucker wrinkled his forehead as he considered the question. “Hmm. I don’t know the answer, but I think I know the solution.” And he pulled her closer and locked lips with her. This time it wasn’t so much a gentle kiss as a suggestive one. The suggestion was made all the more obvious by the way he was pulling against her.

To his confusion, Tia pulled away and started talking again.

“Whoa, Tucker. That is not where I was going with the conversation.”

“Tia, we just watched one of the most romantic movies ever made. Then you made a point about us kissing more. I thought our direction was pretty obvious.” Tucker wasn’t so much angry as he was just completely confused. But he was not a novice at this marriage communication thing; he had skills! He reoriented and sat back a bit. He made eye contact and made an inquiry, smiling so that Tia felt that he was on her side.

“Okay, Tia, help me understand what you were thinking.”

Tia had learned to trust that Tucker really wanted to know, so she explained.

“I think we’ve gotten so familiar and casual with each other and so busy that we don’t often stop and just connect through kissing. Kissing means we have to stop doing everything else and just for those few moments be totally with each other. It’s a lovely thing, but I think it’s an interruption of a sort that we don’t often make time or thought for.”

Tucker nodded. This made sense to him. They’d even made do too often with just making a kissing gesture across the room when one or the other of them left the house.

But, looking at Tia, Tucker had a suspicion that there was another thought there that she needed to share.

“Tia, there’s something else on your mind. Spill it.” He smiled at her to encourage her to speak freely.

“Well, I think it was more than just time going by. I may have to take some responsibility for this. I think I started to avoid kissing you because I didn’t want to raise your expectations. A lot of the time when we’d kiss, especially if I initiated the kiss, you took it from gentle affection to something more passionate. And then it would seem that you expected it to evolve into sex. I didn’t want to give you that message all the time. So I think I just stopped kissing. But I really miss the kissing.”

Tia looked sad.

Tucker looked thoughtful. His forehead wrinkled again.

“Well, I guess I have to share that responsibility. It’s pretty much true that I would like most of those kisses to be passionate and to lead to more. You’re always beautiful to me, Tia, and I almost always want to be passionate with you. But you’ve explained to me before that your mindset isn’t always in that place, so I guess I get that the passionate stuff doesn’t always feel welcome or well-timed.”

Tia smiled broadly and lovingly at Tucker when she heard how well he had listened and how well he understood her feelings, even when they were different from his own.

Tucker hit the jackpot when he then said, “So how about I just follow your lead if you take the kiss up a notch?” At which point she most clearly did.

How to Write a Winning Business Proposal: Work at It to Keep It Simple and Short

Your business proposal has just landed on the client’s desk along with those of your competitors. In a week’s time you’ll find out whether they thought yours was the best. It isn’t an RFP so it doesn’t go through the strict, weighted evaluation such proposals require. However, those who judge it will be equally strict in assessing your qualifications. Adhering to the KISS principle could be a major step in your favor.

I’m reading a book called Riders in the Chariot by Nobel prize-winning author Patrick White. It’s a challenging read, with complex characters and situations. It would never qualify under the KISS principle, being at times convoluted, repetitive and wordy. On the other hand, Stieg Larsson’s The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo is a taut, easier-to-read book one might consider the KISS principle at work.

For those who still may not know, KISS stands for Keep It Simple, Stupid, or perhaps more appropriate for evaluating proposals, Keep It Simple and Short. In my articles I refer often to the importance of the KISS principle. When writing a proposal, I am particularly concerned that it flows seamlessly from start to finish. I’m not after perfection. What I do want is for the reader to follow me at every stage. In other words, there’s a logic that takes them from the introduction to the situation, to the client’s desired result, and how the process unfolds.

I don’t want the reader to have to backtrack. If they do, they’ll lose the thread of what I have to say, meaning I’ve slipped up in my communication. More than likely, I’ve made some assumption that I expect the reader to figure out without my telling them. No reader should have to jump back and forth to decide whether to recommend your proposal. This requires constant vigilance on your part to follow a simple format structure from the start. How do you attain that structure? Use mind mapping and/or brainstorming to determine the component parts, then place those parts in the correct sequence.

It ought to be easy. Sometimes that’s true, more often it’s not. Stieg Larsson makes it look simple, but you can bet he’s done a lot of editing to get there. I’ll go through two or three versions of a proposal before it meets my KISS criteria. You have to edit it down, shape it, and ensure that all the pieces come together. It looks simple, and when it gets into the hands of the reader for evaluation, that’s how it needs to read.

Will your business proposal make it to the top of the pile? If you Keep It Simple and Short, as in the KISS principle, you will improve the odds. But you will have to work at it.

And the Answer Lies With? 4 Key Elements of a Home Based Business

I just received an email from a perspective customer or downline memberop in my personal email account. He had opted in to an online marketing opportunity that I promote. He was curious about making money online, as we all are. His email went something like this: “Do you think your opportunity is really the answer? Just Curious.”

First of all, before I comment or respond to this email, let me put myself in the position of the perspective downline member. The thoughts I consider include the following: I wonder what is going through his mind? What is he looking for? Is he trying to find a way to make a full-time or part-time income from home? Has he been unsuccessful thus far in his attempts? What service can I offer him to change his outlook? Can I change his outlook or even his financial future? Does he have any experience online or is he new to online marketing?

These are all questions I ask when someone approaches or inquires about me becoming their sponsor. You see, a sponsor is much more than a recruiter. I am not involved in recruiting per se. I am involved in sponsoring. What’s the difference you ask?

Sponsor vs Recruiter

In my opinion, a recruiter is someone that attracts inquiries into online marketing opportunities via various online methods such as enticing ads offering to make so much money, offering pie in the sky get rich quick programs or schemes, offering retire in 30 day programs, etc. You get the picture. Now don’t get me wrong here. These advertisements may allow you to achieve exactly what they entail. However, in my experience, the odds of that happening are slim and none.

A sponsor on the other hand, has a responsibility. A responsibility for the success of the newcomer. A responsibility to provide all he or she can in order for that person to achieve whatever it is they seek. When you as a sponsor, accept this responsibility, you separate yourself from those seeking to recruit.

In my opinion, there are 4 key elements to success in your home based business. The 4 elements are discussed below.

1. Is your business simple to understand?

There is nothing more frustrating than trying to figure out how a particular online business operates? What’s more frustrating is trying to figure out how you are going to make money with a business you don’t even understand. My advice is to take the advice of billionaire investor Warren Buffet. He says, and I paraphrase, “If I can’t understand it, I’m not investing in it.” Make sure you understand the business before getting involved.

2. Is your business easy to duplicate?

What’s the point of internet or network marketing if newcomers can’t duplicate the business? Exactly. None. Follow the McDonald’s motto of “One on every corner that anyone can run” and your business will prosper.

3. Does your business have a simple marketing system?

The rule of thumb in any online business is the same as any offline or brick-n-mortar business. KISS. Keep it simple stupid. A simple marketing system should include one with easy to use lead capture pages, autoresponders, sales pages, and products.

4. Does you business have a simple product?

By now, you should be starting to see a pattern here for a successful online marketing business. That’s right. The simpler the better. Make sure your product is simple, cost effective, easy to use, duplicatable, and helps others.

To answer the email above to the question, “Is your business opportunity the answer?”, I would respond by saying this: “Any online marketing opportunity can provide you the vehicle to get you where you want to go. It’s up to you to take it for a drive”.

If your business contains the four elements above, then get behind the wheel and take action. The answer lies with “YOU”.