Kissing In A Dream Isn’t Always What You Think

We humans show our affection and love for one another, and our passion through a kiss. A kiss can soothe, calm and even magically heal -a child will feel all better after their boo-boo is kissed. In many cultures, but especially in Western cultures, a kiss is often the most intimate physical expression, sometimes considered more intimate even than sexual intercourse. It’s pretty much common knowledge that prostitutes rarely kiss their clients on the mouth. This is because the kiss is recognized as a show of love and tenderness, and the services provided by a working girl (or guy) is little more than a business transaction.

In Christian societies, a kiss may also be an act of betrayal, such as the betrayal of Christ by the kiss of Judas. A kiss may also mark the beginning of the end of something, an action that marks the person or project’s demise as in ‘the kiss of death.’ It also represents a goodbye, both temporary and permanent.

In fairy tales, kisses take on a much more complex, archetypal meaning. Snow White and Sleeping Beauty were both revived by a kiss. A frog is magically transformed through the power of a kiss. In the fairy tale world the kiss is associated with rebirth; of either the physical, psychological or spiritual.

In dreams, kisses may be of the tender, loving, healing kind, the impassioned intimate kind or the complex archetypal kind. They may be symbols of transformation, rebirth, or the rekindling or ending of a relationship or project-a ‘breath of new life’ or ‘the kiss of death’ delivered via the lips.

In dreams, a kiss isn’t just a kiss. It has to be understood in context. Is the kiss a simple peck on the cheek from a relative? This type of kiss could signify a need for, or actual, approval from people in authority or parental figures. If you’re shying away from or avoiding the kiss it might mean that you’re feeling smothered by those in authority or you may feel that you’re being made to feel childish. Are you kissing a child, an animal, an inanimate object? Perhaps this is a suggestion that some healing needs to take place, or that you need to welcome this new aspect, situation or character into your life.

Kissing someone with whom you’re involved can indicate either a desire for closeness if it’s missing, or may be an expression of deep affection for that person even on a subconscious level.

Dreams of kissing someone of the same sex, if you’re heterosexual, can indicate a need for self-love or may indicate approval of self. And again, may be suggestive of deep affection, plain and simple.

If you’re kissing someone you’re not attracted to, or if the kiss is unwanted or makes you feel uncomfortable, the dream may indicate feelings of betrayal as forced kissing is a violation; of intimacy, of choice, of boundaries and of your body. These are the kisses that indicate you’re feeling overwhelmed or over-pressured by someone or something in your life. Look at who is involved in the kiss to provide a clue to who or what the situation is. But, this type of kiss may also be a clue to feeling victimized or bullied/forced into actions or activities you are against.

The long, hungry desired kiss may represent, in your dream, a longing for something. The longing may be for love and intimacy, but it can also express longing for something missing in other areas of your life. For example, if you dream of kissing an actor this may be a play on words. It can mean you’re longing for the ability to take action in some area of your life.

If a kiss is given to an animal, this may suggest a longing to return to or recover your true, uninhibited and unstifled nature. These are just some possible meanings. As always, the context, words and characters must be taken into consideration.

Other Possible Meanings:

Kissing someone you like and want may simply be wish fulfillment.

Kissing a faceless person can be demonstrating that your basic desire/s is being met.

Kissing someone you know casually and not romantically may represent recognition of harmonious vibrations.

Kissing a celebrity may be suggesting that you need to, or are trying to boost your self-worth.

Kisses with adulterous passionate overtones may mean that it’s time to spice up the romance.

Kissing is the start of passion for just about any age group. Whether it’s young lovers stealing a kiss at the front door, or a mature married couple kissing tenderly on their 25th anniversary, a kiss is usually about love, passion and tenderness.

A kiss from a lover, under happy circumstances, presages happiness and contentment.

A kiss from a stranger implies an unexpected gift.

A kiss can represent affection, joy, coming success, or a wish to be close to someone.

An unwanted kiss may indicate upcoming overtures from someone you don’t especially like or care for.

If you’re kissing a close friend, then the suggestion may simply be a reminder of your respect and feelings for your friend. On the other hand, it may be implying that you’re seeking some intimate closeness that is lacking in some waking relationship. It may or may not signify a romantic interest for him or her.

To dream that you’re kissing someone’s hand, signifies respect.

To see others kissing in your dream suggests that you are too involved in their personal lives and relationship. You need to give them some space.

In general, kissing is a token of affection and suggests warmth, happiness, appreciation, passion, tenderness and connection. However, there is always the negative connotations to consider. A kiss may be a last kiss, a kiss off, the kiss of death, a kiss goodbye, an unwanted advance or a means of spreading a contagion.

To determine what the kiss represents in a particular dream make note of who is involved in the kiss, where the kiss is taking place, how you (the dreamer) react to the kiss and the character, and what other elements are included in the dream. Also, make note of if the dream is primarily positive or negative.

By answering these questions, you should be able to determine what your kissing dream is trying to tell you.

Kissing 101 Techniques

If you believe kisses play a significant role in foreplay, then you are dead right. However you cannot forget the power of those sweet kisses after a session of lovemaking. Your woman cherishes those intimate moments when you hold her close to you and take her in your arms. She likes it when you gently prod her face toward you and kiss her, hugging her as she falls into sleep. The best kisses are after love-making when you softly kiss between her eyes, on the tip of her nose and kiss languidly but sharply on her lips.

A woman’s mouth is a cavern of pleasure. No one can beat the French kiss in its zenith of passion. It needs no introduction. You can experiment with kiss by taking a small piece of juicy fruit like strawberries, grapes, little pieces of mango and placing it between your lips. Kiss her on her mouth and nibble one half of the piece of the fruit while she nibbles on the other half, till it breaks into two pieces and the juice percolates into each other’s mouths. Just before kissing, gently run your tongue along your partners lip whether it is the top or bottom one depending on the position of your lips. Women find it increasingly erotic when you suck on their lower lip while kissing.

My friend Lisa describes the nip kiss to be quite erotic. She especially enjoyed it when her partner gently nibbled on her lips during the lip-locking session. You have to be careful not to bite her too hard. Also very seductive and imaginative is the reverse kiss. In this type of kiss, you have to kiss her, starting from her scalp. As you explore southward, you have to suck her bottom lip in your mouth and suck and nibble on it gently. Your girl will throw her arms around you and let you kiss her more.

Experiment with the kisses. That way, your girl will never leave you. You are continuously incorporating innovation in your technique which keeps her perpetually wet for you. A woman is an embodiment of pleasure and to give honor only to her lips will be a tad unfair. Her toes deserve as much attention as her lips. Suck her toes and though it will tickle, she will find it amusing and fun. To give a toe kiss, you have to gently suck the toes and then lightly start kissing the foot. Massage the base of the foot as you kiss her there. Have you wondered how it feels when you pop a piece of ice in your mouth and then draw little circles using your mouth around her belly button? You can vary your speed and pace as you apply the pressure of your mouth and ice on her belly and navel. It is very intoxicating for her as the ice melts due to the warmth of her body and the cool water trickles and runs through her bellybutton to her crotch in a languid trail. You can trace the path of water with your tongue and go southward till she moans in pleasure. You can use the ice and pass it with your tongue to her mouth and have a cool steamy French kiss.

You can lick her lips till they turn warm and then gently blow on them and the hot and cold mix will make her get mad with passion. Since most women have sensitive regions in their neck, nibbling up and down her neck and the chin can arouse her. One of my friends acknowledges that of the most surprises, she loves the one in which her boyfriend comes from behind her, hugs her and kisses the top of her shoulder. Your woman knows you have a favorite choice of beverage and drink. Do you want her to taste it? You can make her taste it from your lips. Take a small sip of your favorite drink and leave a little bit on your lips. Kiss her and let the taste get transferred to her tongue and lips. Gently keep your lips brushed against her neck, behind the ear. Then send a sexy shiver through her spine by gently humming and vibrating your lips and cheeks up and down her neck, on her cheeks and lips.

Game for sexy love bites? If she is the sexy tigress, you are the hunter. Sneak behind her when she is busy. Quite out of surprise, grab her from behind and gently bite on her neck. Make sure to growl too and it will surprise them and keep her in splits later. Turn her around and look deep in her eyes. Slowly but softly run the tip of your tongue along her lips as if you are licking it. Then kiss her upper lip and then gently suck her lower lip. Make sure that you let your tongue caress hers as you immerse in the depths of the kiss.

You Must Remember This – It Matters Why and When You Kiss

It was a lovely, and pretty typical, Friday evening. The kids were out with friends and the house was all theirs. They were snuggled together on the couch watching this week’s movie choice. They took turns choosing the movie of the week.

Tonight’s movie was a classic, Casablanca. They both knew it well and enjoyed it every time. They hadn’t watched it in awhile, but when the song came on, “As time goes by”, they both sang along. At the end, they sighed, smiled at each other, and, naturally, kissed to mark the line, “A kiss is just a kiss.”

When the movie ended, Tia turned to Tucker and said, “I liked that kiss. We should do more of that.”

Tucker, recognizing his cue, immediately kissed her gently on the lips. Tia smiled and said, “I like that.” After a couple of moments, Tia said, “Tucker, why don’t we kiss more often? We used to kiss all the time. People used to tease us about the dangers of chapped lips. When did we stop kissing so much?”

Tucker wrinkled his forehead as he considered the question. “Hmm. I don’t know the answer, but I think I know the solution.” And he pulled her closer and locked lips with her. This time it wasn’t so much a gentle kiss as a suggestive one. The suggestion was made all the more obvious by the way he was pulling against her.

To his confusion, Tia pulled away and started talking again.

“Whoa, Tucker. That is not where I was going with the conversation.”

“Tia, we just watched one of the most romantic movies ever made. Then you made a point about us kissing more. I thought our direction was pretty obvious.” Tucker wasn’t so much angry as he was just completely confused. But he was not a novice at this marriage communication thing; he had skills! He reoriented and sat back a bit. He made eye contact and made an inquiry, smiling so that Tia felt that he was on her side.

“Okay, Tia, help me understand what you were thinking.”

Tia had learned to trust that Tucker really wanted to know, so she explained.

“I think we’ve gotten so familiar and casual with each other and so busy that we don’t often stop and just connect through kissing. Kissing means we have to stop doing everything else and just for those few moments be totally with each other. It’s a lovely thing, but I think it’s an interruption of a sort that we don’t often make time or thought for.”

Tucker nodded. This made sense to him. They’d even made do too often with just making a kissing gesture across the room when one or the other of them left the house.

But, looking at Tia, Tucker had a suspicion that there was another thought there that she needed to share.

“Tia, there’s something else on your mind. Spill it.” He smiled at her to encourage her to speak freely.

“Well, I think it was more than just time going by. I may have to take some responsibility for this. I think I started to avoid kissing you because I didn’t want to raise your expectations. A lot of the time when we’d kiss, especially if I initiated the kiss, you took it from gentle affection to something more passionate. And then it would seem that you expected it to evolve into sex. I didn’t want to give you that message all the time. So I think I just stopped kissing. But I really miss the kissing.”

Tia looked sad.

Tucker looked thoughtful. His forehead wrinkled again.

“Well, I guess I have to share that responsibility. It’s pretty much true that I would like most of those kisses to be passionate and to lead to more. You’re always beautiful to me, Tia, and I almost always want to be passionate with you. But you’ve explained to me before that your mindset isn’t always in that place, so I guess I get that the passionate stuff doesn’t always feel welcome or well-timed.”

Tia smiled broadly and lovingly at Tucker when she heard how well he had listened and how well he understood her feelings, even when they were different from his own.

Tucker hit the jackpot when he then said, “So how about I just follow your lead if you take the kiss up a notch?” At which point she most clearly did.